As a licensed psychotherapist in Texas, I have had the opportunity of assisting clients in exploring ways to let go of the past. My top three ways for assisting clients in letting go of the past include the following:
An individual must first understand that the things that occurred in the past are just that: THINGS IN THE PAST. I believe that when a person acknowledges that something happened and places either shame or blame on the event, then the event becomes difficult to let go.
What I suggest is that an individual think about the event as a figurine on a shelf in their house.
If you think about this, people have all types of figurines in their homes, they know that the figurine is their but they don’t pay much attention to it.
With this in mind, a person should acknowledge that an event has occurred, but not place so much mental emphasis on the event; realizing that it no longer has power over them unless they perseverate over it.
A person should commit themselves to things that help them to feel worthy and valuable.. Once a person commits to a task, they have now desire to dwell on something that has occurred in the past.
The activity usually has the power to take their minds off of things in the past and they are more “future oriented”..
3. Reality Check
Think of past incidents as “What doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger“.
I always ask my clients three simple questions about trauma or events that caused mental anguish:
(a) “Did this event cause your death”?
(b) “Did this event cause you to go blind”?
(c) “Did this event prevent you from having the mobility that you’ve had all along”?
If they answer no to all three of these questions, then I process with the clients how they have the ability to “move forward” with their lives.
Often times this helps the client to see life in a different perspective.. If they answer yes to one of the afore mentioned questions, then the client and I process how they still have the ability to move forward because they are still ALIVE and are here for a purpose!
That’s all! If you want to share some other tips on how to manage things happened in the past, feel free to comment!
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