“God, give us grace to accept with serenity the things that cannot be changed, Courage to change the things which should be changed, and the wisdom to distinguish the one from the other.”
How to stop worrying, increasing your personal power at the same time?
You do it, like the classic prayer above says, by yourself on what you can change instead of what you can’t, and be aware enough to keep directing your focus in a useful way.
What You Can Do
It is within your area of control. This includes people and events you can directly or indirectly influence; you can get yourself to start running, convince someone to donate money to charity, and start a company.
You can love people that love you, travel for your happiness or bring happiness to people that you want to see happy.
Whatever it is, it has to be in your area of control.
What You Can’t Do
It includes people and things you can’t directly or indirectly influence; you can’t repair the depleted ozone, you can’t arrest all the terrorists in the world, you can’t even stop new techno music from being made or financial crisis of other nations!
What You Care About
It includes both the area of things you have control over and those you don’t.
Productivity, growth and positivity are created when you focus on those concerns you have control over and feel the joy of accomplishment when you work on them.
Worry, stress and negativity come when you focus instead on those concerns you don’t have control over and fuss and learn how to be helpless when there’s nothing you can do.
What Can You Do Right Now?
We tend to let ourselves get overwhelmed sometimes, but the truth is that while we might overestimate what we can do in the short term, we tend to underestimate what we can do in the long.
You might not be able to achieve your deepest dreams overnight, but what can you do right now?
How To Multiply Your Personal Power
All you need to do is remember this byword:
If something scares you but is good for you, and especially if you feel you can’t do it, then you must.
In other words, stretch. The more you stretch the boundaries of your area of control by stretching them, the bigger your area of influence will stretch over your area of concern.
It will not be easy, and you might make a few mistakes, but therein lies the serenity to accept things that cannot be changed, courage to change the things which should be, and the power to transform one into the other. This will lead you to understand how to stop worry.
This kind of thinking will lead you also to change your habits in order to worry less:
- Ask yourself if things that had made you worry about something had ever happened.
- Overcome unreal fears.
- Do not try to guess what other people think, but go there and ask them.
- Physical activity always boosts your motivation.
- If you are worried, talk to someone about that worrying.
- Focus your attention on the present moment.
- Identify the steps to solve the things you are concerned about.
Are you experiencing other tips to better let our worrying go away? Share them in the comments!
Get help from the best resources online
Many readers ask us suggestions about very good resources online that can effectively help people with their methods and that are not expensive.
I will now suggest three of the best programs I’ve ever found online:
- Anxiety Shift: this guide definitely have helped people to improve their situation, I think you should probably give it a try since it is based on a technique that breaks the anxiety cycle.
- Panic Away: Barry Mcdonagh has helped people for over ten years, from top CEO’s and celebrities to soldiers and moms. His work has been used by more than 80.000 people online.
- CBT4Panic: Based on cognitive behavioral therapy, this program is one of the most complete (audio, video, ebooks, worksheets…) and you can get it at a very low price considering the expensive courses present on the web.I strongly suggest to refer to one of these because you will definitely save a lot of money and, more importantly, you will notice big results in very few weeks.
PS. Don’t miss these useful resources on Anxiety & Panic Attacks!