What would be the best and definite solution to relieve anxiety? Without any doubt, we can say that a consistent life may be one of the best solutions.
This approach is regarding the way you set up your life; in particular, you have to think things through and make sure that your short-term and long-term goals are aligned.
Consistency is the only valid method for relieving anxiety in the long-term. People who want one thing and do something else inevitably suffer from anxiety. Individuals get stressed when they embark themselves on projects that are disconnected with their long-term goals. Extreme anxiety is a warning sign that you need to change your life.
The importance of creating a purpose
Anxiety is a burden, but you can face it. Indeed, by establishing a purpose, a goal, you can create something to think about when you are feeling anxious.
Let’s explain it in this way: you are having a panic attack right now, and what would you do? You may be screaming around your house saying “Oh no! I’m feeling so bad! I think I’m dying, or something bad is going to happen!! Help!!”.
Be quiet, for a moment, and think about your goal, your purpose. When you feel lost and confused, you have to remind, thanks to this goal, and realize that you are pursuing a positive way.
The best way to set a goal is to set, at first, a big goal, a long-term goal, then to divide it into small ones, short-term goals.
Long-term goals, in this case, are the situations you cannot manage when you have a panic attack. They can also be some goals not regarding anxiety in particular, but any achievement you want to reach in your life. We will concentrate only on those cases regarding anxiety management. They can be several: you want to get rid of panic attacks on a plan, or anxiety feelings at the restaurant with your friends or your family, at college, in some working conditions, while driving, etc..
Short-term goals are settled when you need to reach a significant goal. Let’s take an example of a working condition: you do not like your job, you feel anxious about your situation, and you feel heartbroken and not at ease with yourself when going in the workplace. A short-term goal can be to improve yourself and your skills to find a better job, or to improve your behaviour with other people while working.
I’ve settled my short-term goals, now what?
You have to be sure to set your short-term objectives in a very precise and concrete set of tasks that can be achieved by you in a week, a month or even in a day (of course it depends on the situations that may occur). The importance of all of this is that you need to be motivated while choosing how to act and what kind of tasks you are going to do to improve your conditions.
Small decisions are more important than big ones because you can see immediately what’s the outcome of an action you took or a task you accomplished.
Regarding the amount of time and the meaning you should give to your goals, I can suggest you to see the infographic about setting S.M.A.R.T. goals.
How to act every day
In any time of the day, you should get in a position to remind yourself of your Small Goals and create some actions to take that lead you to maintain your way and move forward with it. Perform this not as a method to evaluate your progress or to criticize your failures, but as a method to retain yourself motivated and to feel rewarded for your accomplishments.
Get help from the best resources online
Many readers ask us suggestions about very good resources online that can effectively help people with their methods and that are not expensive.
I will now suggest three of the best programs I’ve ever found online:
- Anxiety Shift: this guide definitely have helped people to improve their situation, I think you should probably give it a try since it is based on a technique that breaks the anxiety cycle.
- Panic Away: Barry Mcdonagh has helped people for over ten years, from top CEO’s and celebrities to soldiers and moms. His work has been used by more than 80.000 people online.
- CBT4Panic: Based on cognitive behavioral therapy, this program is one of the most complete (audio, video, ebooks, worksheets…) and you can get it at a very low price considering the expensive courses present on the web.I strongly suggest to refer to one of these because you will definitely save a lot of money and, more importantly, you will notice big results in very few weeks.
Do you like to share your opinion regarding the relation between goals and anxiety? Feel free to write it in the comments!
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