Why do I feel stressed?
This question often comes up in your mind whether you are at work or trying to better manage important events, and you definitely need to know how to become less stressed in your everyday life.
By careful editing of your life, and changing certain habits, you can eliminate most (not all) sources of stress in your life.
In order for you to know how to stop feeling stressed, I have decided to collect into this post some best tips and suggestions from 6 experts, which expose several ways to dealing with stress and learning how to get rid of it.
Let’s start with these various expositions in order to relieve stress!
1. Events important for you are sources of stress
Why do we experience stress?
A good majority of stress in life revolves around events that are important to you, and often involve being front of others – whether you’re a young person giving an oral report at school, or an adult interviewing for a job.
These events may cause anxiety too.
To reduce stress, no matter the occasion, I teach these three stress-reducing preparations:
- Get the butterflies in your stomach to fly in formation. This is where, rather than letting negative energy cripple you, you redirect it toward your goal. Having butterflies in your stomach is normal when something big is about to take place, so use that energy by redirecting it, to accomplish your goal.
- Stack your moments of certainty. Remind yourself of 4-5 times you’ve succeeded, no matter how small.. When you focus on your successes, your confidence climbs.
- Strike your superhero pose. Standing in a power pose primes your body for action and releases testosterone, whether you’re male or female, and your cortisol level (which is your stress hormone level) goes down.
~ My name is John Livesay. I’m the author of the book, “The Successful Pitch“. I’m known as “The Pitch Whisperer” and have appeared on outlets such as Forbes, CBS, Fox, ABC, and Inc.
You can reach me at SellingSecretsforFunding.com or on Twitter: @john_livesay.
2. Being stressed about work?
I used to be very stressed about work and even after I came home I would still focus on it.
Part of the stress was a repetition of the events of the day that I could not purge from my head. Bringing work stress home affected my home life and my relationship negatively. I often wondered with all the stress that I felt if it was “worth it” and if this was a meaningful life. Then I committed myself to a new project which was a dream I had to create something all my own.
I became a children’s book author on the side, creating The Adventures of Big Sil children’s books, based on the lovable rescue dog Big Sil [my dog]. The books help kids learn their cities while also giving back a portion of the proceeds to dog rescue. This project, whether I become a famous author or not, changed my life. When I got home I had something new to look forward to and something that diverted my attention away from the former stresses of the day.
My tip for reducing stress is to find something you love to focus on. It is amazing how different I feel when I get home and instead of rehashing a stressful day, I am excited about the new possibilities of my project. Throw yourself into something you love and it will change your life!
3. Tricks to relieve stress
Some things to do when stressed:
Remind yourself of any time that you handled something of the same stress level before. For example, Your yearly evaluation at work, you have had other evaluations and survived. This can be applied to anything, illness, moving, arguments with loved ones.
Decide that the situation is an opportunity for growth, instead of just a stressor. This could be a mental or a spiritual trick.
Stand tall and tilt your head slightly upward – This gives your brain a message that you will be happy and face the stress. Looking down gives the message that you are surrendering to the stress.
If you combine deep breathing with the posture it can make you feel confident and relaxed.
Tell yourself that God, Christ, Buddha or your higher power will take care of the stressor if you just give your best effort. When you do this you often feel relief and sometimes feel that stressed feeling leaving you. You can also tell yourself that god will take care of the stressor in exactly the right way that it is meant to happen.
4. Organize your tasks
When I feel stressed and overwhelmed, I find that a huge amount of that feeling is caused by things I have to have on my mind or remember.
Make sure to grab a certain product with my groceries, meet a business partner later today or make sure to go for a walk later.
I have found the easiest solution is two fold:
First I automate as much as possible. A computer will always have a better memory than me. I use an app called IFTTT (or If This Than That), it will automate simple tasks such as posting on social media. For a small business owner it can automatically fill out a spreadsheet when a sale is made. For a forgetful person like me I can have it auto update my twitter profile when I update my Facebook profile.
I also use a program called Inbox by Google. It basically has a ‘done’ folder where you put emails by swiping them. This means when I have done a task I can have the email go away. I can still go find it in the done folder but it’s not glaring at me at all times. I also use the snooze feature which means if I can’t action the email until a few days later I wont see the email until then.
Having the emails not be right in front of you is a huge burden off my shoulders.
The final thing is my almost religious trust in Google calendar. I put absolutely every tiny little reminder and appointment in there. Do I need to pick up a whoopie cushion for a Halloween costume tonight? I’ll have it auto remind me at 5pm when I’m leaving work.
For more apps for making to-do lists check here.
~ My name is Kole McRae and I am the founder of SiteZen – Hand made websites. I also take a very active interest in productivity and life overall.
5. Top 10 stress management techniques
- Create a personal mantra that will help you stay calm and feel like you’re in control. “I’ve faced challenges in the past and succeeded.” Or “I am loved just as I am.”
- Do 5 mins of deep breathing. Put your left hand on your chest and right hand on your belly button. Breathe deeply enough to expand your stomach and raise your right hand, keeping your left hand still. Take several deep breaths, counting to 5 for each inhale and exhale. Try to learn how to meditate effectively.
- Journal about your stressors to get some of the mental junk out of your head. For this check how to write a personal journal.
- Create a play list of feel-good, stress relieving songs. For some, that’s heavy metal. While others prefer a slower tempo.
- Get a massage!
- If you’re stressed about things that are out of your control, do something nice for others. That’s a positive that you can control.
- Diffuse some lavendar essential oil for it’s tension relieving benefits.
- Make a checklist of all the things you need to do on a daily basis that will help you maintain the stress-free life you want. Check more habits to increase productivity.
- Try a new hobby that can distract you from stressors when necessary. Try also to quit bad habits.
- Buy yourself some flowers or a tasty treat to take a break from all the stress.
~ I am Amanda Campbell, a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and life coach in Indianapolis, IN. You can reach me at www.busymomslifecoach.com
6. Don’t push yourself into stress
A lot of times, the stress is self-inflicted. We often tend to overburden ourselves with unrealistic deadlines and to-do lists that leaves us drained and stressed. The trick is to be more practical while taking on work and setting expectations (yours or your boss’/Client’s). If you’re suffering from ‘unending to-do list’ syndrome, start with putting only 2 or 3 important things on it. That ways, you’ll feel accomplished when you get these done by the end of your day.
- Get active: A little bit of activity is what you need to shrug off the negativity and stress. If you have a completely sedentary life style, start by taking short and frequent walks in your office. Try and make it a part of your lifestyle.
- Switch Off: While there are many small things you can do to see incremental benefits, sometimes you need to completely switch yourself off and take a step back. It may not always be possible, but if you feel the stress is killing you, just stop (even if it’s for a day or a few hours). Spend time with family, pets, or do whatever you enjoy. When you ready to be back in the game, enter with a gameplan to handle stress better.
My name is Sumit Bansal and I am the founder of Productivity Spot, an online platform that trains people to be more productive in using office tools such as spreadsheets and MS Word. You can find me on Twitter.